Reflections: Why Church? Part Three
Why Church? Part Three: “For the Kids” by Jordan Sadler (for more of Jordan’s musings go to her blog, The Wonderwheel)
Spirit of Life, come unto me.
Sing in my heart all the stirrings of compassion.
Blow in the wind, rise in the sea;
Move in the hand, giving life the shape of justice.
Roots hold me close; wings set me free;
Spirit of Life, come to me, come to me.
When my kids hear that it’s Sunday morning and we’ll be going to church, they actually both cheer loudly at the breakfast table. They love church. I think part of what they love is the ritual of it.
For Lyle, the ritual is quite simple. We sign him in and go to the toddler room, where he gets to “play trucks” with Noah, color, listen to a story, eat some rice cakes for snack, and then get picked up. He loves going up to the parish hall for treats at the end and running around with Baxter and our friends.
For Baxter, the ritual is more complex. He starts off with us in the sanctuary, where he takes great pride in knowing what to expect. Baxter is a huge fan of the “Spirit of Life” hymn that we sing every week (text above) and opens his hymnal to the memorized page as soon as he sits down. He has learned that we usually sing something else before his favorite, and so he diligently looks for the hymn number in the bulletin, finds it in what I like to call our “hippie hymnal”, and marks the page with the bulletin. But he keeps the page open to “Spirit of Life”, and I think that’s because this is the best part of the ritual for him. At a certain point in the service, the children are invited to gather up front to listen to a story that is related to the sermon’s theme, and then they are “sung out” to their Sunday school classes to a few rousing choruses of “May peace surround you, may love surround you, as you go on your way…”
While Baxter sings, listens to the story, and walks back out past us to go to his class, he beams with happiness. This kid just eats the whole thing up, and seems to love every minute of it.
He is part of the Spirit Play class, which is described fully here. Essentially, it is based on the Montessori method of teaching. A story is presented, the children discuss it, and then they move on to do their own chosen “work”. But what I love best about the church program is that the Sunday school teachers do not hand the children a plate of answers - a “this is what you are required to believe” speech - but rather, encourages them to question, question, and question, in order to eventually develop their own path to truth. Now that’s a Sunday school that I can get behind.
Also, like the adult version of church going on in the sanctuary, the children are constantly encouraged to think beyond themselves. They too have a collection, although I should say that any children who don’t bring a few coins to add are invited to “blow a wish” into the collection plate, which is lovely.
One of my favorite moments since joining our church was the conversation we had with Baxter when it came time for the annual vote on how the kids wanted to spend this money they had donated. Half goes to the church, and they had a choice about whether to put it towards the new garden or to redesign the older kids’ space. Baxter quickly decided on the garden, because “Giving it for the big kids’ classroom seems silly - that’s just decorations - but we should make the garden better because that’s something we can do for the whole earth. That’s more important.”
The harder part for Baxter was to determine how to spend the other half of the children’s fund. He had to choose from three worthy causes; after each one he said, “Well, yes, we should do that one! Of course!” We had a great conversation about the fact that we feel that way, too. There are so many people who need our help, so many important organizations to give money and help to, but we just have to choose; it’s very difficult. It was really interesting and meaningful to sit with him and have this conversation, and listen as he wrestled with which organization was the best one to choose and why.
The things he’s learning at church are very well aligned with what Matt and I believe and want to instill in the boys. But like all of the other things I seem to appreciate most about this experience, church is making this too happen in a bigger, more regular, and very real way.